Hate, its the new black.

Abusive on a message board does that equal abusive in person? I think it does. I'm not talking about a one time outburst, I'm talking about a pattern of abusive behavior. When someones underlying theme is hurtful on purpose to others. I wonder if these men even realise that they are getting screened out by girls for their online "persona", if the reason they are getting so many "sorry I'm unavailable" is because it all relates back to they are a total and complete misogynistic hate filled dick when they post on a message board.

Many escorts watch the boards and look for a pattern. Is he nice to others, does he have an underlying anger problem. Is he always calling girls who are not his taste names. Is he a boundary crosser and often advocate an angry approach, does he throw a temper tantrum if someone disagrees with him. Someone like that will get abusive in person, they will try to cross your boundaries, they will throw a temper tantrum in person and you better hope that if they do you are savvy enough to placate them and guide the situation so you don't get hurt.

This can be a very dangerous business and there are very angry men who have very serious issues with women in general who gravitate to it. They cant relate to women in an intimate fashion int he real world and they want to be in control so they BUY it and then they feel since they've bought it, they can treat it anyways they want. Yup i said "IT" that's because that's how they act. Not as if the escort is a living breathing person with family and friends and people who love her. But as a thing they can treat anyways they want. I see that behavior all over message boards. I see people saying very reveling things about how they feel about women. If you watch for the pattern it will always emerge.

You have to be alert and aware at all times. The risk is never worth it. If i see someone who is mean and hurtful to others on a message board, i will always be "unavailable" to them, even if they are sacranie sweet to me. How they treat everyone matters not just how they treat me. The risk that they could snap and treat me how I've seen them threat others is always there and its never worth the risk for a few bucks.... never.

Luckily there are also great guys who really do love women on these boards and are not seeing escorts as a way to resolve their personal demons with women. Those guys I'm always happy to see and usually have a great time with. I wish i saw more of that positive presence on the boards and less of the angry, i hate the world and especially women guy, who cant help but reveal himself and spew his hatred out of his angry little fingers.

Hate its the new black.

Feast or Famine

Being as Jan/Feb are very slow times of the year for the working girl. ( i blame holiday over spending!) I had hunkered down in my own little world of panic and cable TV then started to economise and get ready for the next bumpy couple months. Suddenly i became very popular! Maybe its a fluke or maybe it's because I'm just that charming and sexy that even when you don't have any extra cash for a tasty bite of Jenny you find a way. Either way I'm not going to look a gift horse in the mouth. I'm going to get my hair done, put on the tall shoes and show some guys the times of their lives. Don't you wish you could make your rent in one evening of naughty fun..

Its funny this business can be feast or famine. You're either so busy you cant get anything else done or your so NOT busy that you watch reality show marathons day in and day out. There is no in between. I guess its like any other freelance business when you get own to it and saving for the inevitable rainy day is a requirement. Especially when you don't know how busy you will be from day to day. Its also seldom done. At least rarely by me. Not that I'm a spend thrift or anything but when i am in the flush i tend to be a little careless with my cash flow then regret that fancy new camera i bought.

Like i said I'm not going to complain... i want to be busy, im happy to be busy. More importantly I'm grateful to be a busy little beaver.

kisses,
Jenny

I Love Meat

Had dinner last night with 3 hot chicks and one handsome man. the girls were all escorts (off the click of course) and smokin hot and the dude was the boyfriend of one of the girls. He was kind enough to pop for dinner and the food was wonderful. We ate at AJ's steak house at the Hard Rock. I had this big hunk of bloody rare steak. The sexy little minx to my left had the amazing crab legs. It was off the hook. I have to say i do love meat! ;)

Then us four girls ran around the casino for a while looking for trouble but never really finding it. The hard rock on a Friday was like being in any trendy stupid bar in West Hollywood on a weekend and i stopped going out in weho on the weekends years ago. Lots of guys in shinny shirts and girls wearing dresses that made them look like Hoes. Its funny the real hoes (us) dressed down as to not be branded hoes in public off the clock. The civvies were all pretty Hoe-ish looking. go figure. I always have fun hanging out with other girls in the biz, they get me and i never feel like i have to put on an act and watch what i say as to not slip up and accidentally let the cat out of the bag about my clandestine profession.

One more party tonight then tomorrow i get to go home and snuggle with my pooch.

It's Party Time

I was the co-host for a big holiday party last night. This party was filled with hobbyists and providers and was also a toys4tots drive. That’s right it was for the CHLDREN damnit!

So I secured a hip Spanish restaurant on the east side of LA and my co-host the D-man went to work on the guest list. Considering it was raining cats and dogs we had a great turn out of horny hobbyists and hot providers.

The tapas were yummy and the white sangria flowed at least it flowed with me.

Even the sexy hot porn star CJ Bennett graced us with her presence. BTW she’s hot even soaking wet standing in the rain in her 5-inch platforms with mascara running down her face. yes it was that kinda party.

There was strange entertainment, a one-man band, a freaky Christian couple wearing a holiday sweaters who were singing “sweet child o’ mine” to a mock baby Jesus and a western honky tonk singer. Ahhh good times!

After was all said and done we only had two girls skip out in their tab (bad girls!) and we collected 6 giant trash bags full of toys for the tots. People were very generous and it seemed as if everyone had a good time meeting and greeting. I know I did.

As the night was winding down a group headed on over to cheetahs to watch alternative strippers with tattoos take it off and I went home to sleep it off, but not before getting pounded from behind by my hot and sexy date.

tomorrow i drop off all the toys at my local fire station. yay! firemen!

Merry Xmas!
Jenny

In the future everyone will be world-famous for fifteen minutes

I used to be very involved in a small local provider and hobbyist message board in L.A. I recently decided to take a break. Not only because I have knowledge that it’s being watched closely by law enforcement but because its slant has became increasing anti female. I mean who needs to participate on a message board where at every turn you have to defend who you are and what you chose to do to a bunch of small minded woman hating troglodytes. It used to be a nice community of like-minded folks but without moderation and a lack of control and interest by the site owners it has degenerated into a microcosm of misogynistic slime and ooze. Who needs that? I know I don’t. I walked away.

It wasn’t worth the effort any longer, so once day I just stopped posting. I stopped pointing out the obvious, adding my humor, perspective and thoughts to a hooker message board i had been involved with for years.

It took about a week before people noticed I wasn’t contributing. Threads where started about my absence about two weeks into my departure. Little You Tube videos (amateurishly made) were created to discuss “where was Jenny” I was more the talk of the cyber town when I wasn’t there, then when I was there helping new people get acclimated, pointing new providers in the direction of safety information, posting my availability and sharing my unique point of view on being a online message board hooker.

I would occasionally read this local board and when I got an email from friends alerting me to yet another topic about ….me, Jenny. I would read and laugh. They didn’t have anything to talk about without me. They had theories as to what I was doing, where did I go, what happened to me. I wouldn’t have been surprised of there was a betting pool all about me.

Just this morning I was once again alerted to another topic about, you guessed it, ME. Too funny, it’s like im their god, their ruler they have nothing to talk about if im not there good, bad or indifferent… they are speechless, directionless and lost with out me. How sad is that.

Its like im Elvis, im legendary. Soon there will be Jenny sightings all over Kalamazoo Michigan. Apparently I made quite the impression that even after weeks and weeks if removing myself from participation that the main topic if conversation on this small local message board about sex for money is still… JENNY DEMILO.

The funny thing is that I have a pretty high profile. I am a regular participant on a national and well-known review board. I have this blog, which I just took mainstream, and my other blog that is directed at an escort audience. I have ads on national escort mall sights and I participate on other small local boards in other cities. I just stopped posting on THAT board. The one where they have contempt for women, where every other thread’s theme is ”bad whores, bad, bad whores” I really thought no once would notice my absence, I didn’t think I had that big of an influence on the people of that local board. I couldn’t have been more wrong. By removing myself and deciding to not participate I have elevated myself to a much higher status in those small minds and become quite the legend. More talked about, more thought about and more posted about then when I was active and involved… I really am a legendary on this nothing little board… and not only in my own mind!

Time to go buy a bedazzled jumpsuit!

Break it on down

I get asked a lot “who sees escorts”? Most people think its what they see on TV streetwalkers like on HBO’s hookers on the point who see convicts who just need to bust a nut after being locked up for 7 to10. I guess thats one element but i've never experienced it.

In my experience it really breaks down like this …

90% are married or involved men. They are missing something in their relationships (intimacy, sex, variety maybe all of it) and they rationalize to themselves that it’s not “cheating” because they are paying for it.

The guy who’s crossing it off their list of things to do, like skydiving. If it were legal he’d go once in a while. He’s usually single and in a dating dry spell. The casual user ;)

The guys who would never get laid without it. Nice guys, NO game. They are uncomfortable around women; they don’t look you in the eye. They will never be the guys who pick up the tasty piece of ass at the bar. So he rents her by the hour.

Then there’s the ones that I do my best to screen out. They always need to tell you how attractive they are. They make a point of letting you know that they don’t “have” to pay for it and usually they're right. They are good-looking guys with lots of game and plenty of charm. They could go out and pick up hot girls every night of the week. They talk the talk and walk the walk. They call an escort because they are lazy. As a result they are resentful they have a “service me” attitude they are lazy lovers and treat you like a whore. yuck.

They are your brothers, your husbands, your fathers, and your sons. They are rich, poor and everything in between. They are of every color of the human rainbow All kinds of men hire escorts.

If they didn’t... i'd be out of a job!

Will you lick my armpit?

I'm sorry I don’t do that was how a responded, in my best little girl voice and my sweetest smile, trying not to give away the eww feeling that had just rushed over me.

I don’t think i've gotten that request before so maybe its not that I “don’t” lick arm pits, maybe I just didn’t want to lick this strangers hairy arm pit. I’m not sure.

During my 3 years working as an escort I don’t think i've ever come across this request before. Oh sure I get clothing requests all the time. If I can I always try to dress the part for the requested fantasy. As long as I don’t have to show up at the Ritz dressed as a pirate, peg leg, eye patch, parrot and all. Fortunately its usually just stockings and garters they are after or “dressing down” because they don’t want you walking to the door in Lucite 6 inch fuck me pumps and a skirt that barely covers your ass and put on a show for the neighbors. But will you like my armpit?… this was something new.

Is armpit licking some hot new fetish I am unaware of? Is it all the rage with some underground pit licking subculture? Are there huge armpit licking parties where people eagerly lick away? Is it the new safe sex? I used to think nothing could throw me for a loop after my 3 years of working as an escort, I thought I had seen it all but I was sadly mistaken on Saturday morning in a hip downtown hotel when the request was made…

Will you lick my armpit? Nope not today

Vote with your wallet

You hear it time and time again. You don't like a providers why of handling her business..
vote with your wallet

You don't like a providers price structure...
vote with your wallet

You don't like a providers website...
vote with your wallet

You don't like what a provider says in her blogs...
vote with your wallet.

Its great advice, providers are in this business to make money. Yeah you will hear the old "i just love to fuck" line thrown around and many of us do love to fuck but we are in this for the cash not the sex. the sex (when its good) is a bonus.

So you don't like provider or how she handles her business, vote with your wallet. Do not patronise her, do not pass go do not collect 200 dollars. It's as simple as that. if your way of thinking is the majority you will soon see that provider fade away or change how she does things because her business is falling off.

Don't dog her on the review boards at every turn and make an ass out of yourself, don't rant and rave and scream and yell. Simply vote with your wallet. Its easy to do and effective. Promote the providers you do enjoy, the ones who handle their business how you like or think they should.

Oh wait the ones screaming and yelling and ranting and raving like lunatics, the ones who feel so powerless in their own lives that they have to chase around providers on review boards and be snide and nasty to feel like a man with power, they NEVER vote with their wallets...why?

Because there is nothing in them to vote with, being an asshole is all those guys have.

Maybe those "hobbyists" (and i use that term loosely) need to start scrap booking that hobby is very affordable

I Fuck For Money

I Fuck For Money... but that doesn't make me less of a person.

I'm really getting tired of the self righteous attitudes of those that see/interact with providers. The men/clients/keyboard warriors that think because "i fuck for money" that its okay to treat me like less of a person.

I don't have feelings... how could i, i fuck for money
I have no family or friends who love me... how could i, i fuck for money.
I don't have dreams, hopes, desires... how could i, i fuck for money.

women who who fuck for money are not real. You can treat us however you want and no one will know its really YOU who's doing it.

You can seek your revenge on the high school girl who snubbed you, the checker at the market who wouldn't date you, the college girlfriend who fucked your best friend, the wife who despises you. all you need is a screen name and finally you can feel powerful, if only for a brief moment while your typing hunched over in the dark while your wife and 2 kids are asleep.

I have a big mouth. i speak my mind. i never mince words. I'm not very diplomatic... i just never have been. I was the 7 year old that stood up in a friends church and called bullshit when they tried to tell me that "all women were sinners" so now that I'm grown and have somehow ended up being a provider (a damn good one BTW) I need to change who i am to placate the same small minds and backward attitudes I've been battling all my life?

If i wanted to have to be diplomatic in my dealings with small minds i would have stayed in advertising with the rest of the corporate whores.

Yet i get labeled a trouble maker when i, point out the obvious, fight back or god forbid, speak my mind. I'm not a troublemaker, I'M A FUCKING MALCONTENT.

My name is Jenny DeMilo and i am a message board hooker

Kisses,
Jenny