"Fraud and falsehood only dread examination"

Since hookers are the new black and by that i mean it's almost acceptable to be a sex worker these days. There are T.V. shows, movies and articles written about us all the time now. Though its still not in the mainstream, it's a lot more acceptable then it was just a few short years ago when i started working. As a result I've noticed a new trend. Though trend might be an over exaggeration. What I've observed is fake online sex workers. Yes i said fake. What that means is fairly high profile "escorts" that are not real working escorts. They are made up figments of their creators imaginations. With a little knowledge, a little research, it would be easy to make up a very salacious prolific online persona that was a sex worker and that is just what some people have done.

It angers me and makes me laugh my ass off, when I see people fall for this shtick. It angers me because these made up persona's are setting themselves up to represent the profession I work in and they are not real. I work hard to give my honest account of the sex worker subculture and my place in it. To not sugar coat, sensationalize or glamorize what I do. I am as honest about it as I can be. When you see people who are just making up stuff out of thin air, being touted as "authorities" on the subject of sex work, when you see these sock puppets being as sensationalistic as they can be to draw as much attention to themselves as humanly possible.... its upsetting.

When you watch the blind masses falling for it, its often sad and hilarious. How betrayed will these people feel when they find out that hot sexy little minx they read the blogs of, follow on twitter or Facebook feel when its revealed that the "sex worker" isn't a sex worker at all but some made up persona who doesn't exist. Someone who capitalized on a trend that took the ball and ran with it and MADE UP a person? I think they will feel quite betrayed because they cheer for her, believe in her sexual freedom, encourage her to succeed and support her. They do get invested in her and she is not real. How much backlash will there be for us REAL sex workers when these fakes are eventually outed for what they are. For most sex workers who quietly go about their business it probably wont impact them much but for the activists who work daily to decriminalize and fight for the rights of sex workers and for a girl like me who does speak to the press, does write honest accounts about her feelings of being involved in this world, there will be just that much more work to do to convince people were not all drugged addicted, pimped out skanks, who cant do anything but spread our legs for a fast buck. That is the real disservice these fakes do. When it is revealed they are fake no one will believe that the intelligent sex workers who speak out...are real.

I was interviewed for the LA Times this summer. The reporter wanted to meet me face to face. I agreed after checking her and out ascertaining she was in fact real herself. She explained to me why she needed to meet me face to face, it was simple, she originally thought i wasn't real. She wasn't ingrained into the escort world (most reporters aren't) She didn't know how to asses someone legitimacy with reviews, screening services, etc.. she needed to confirm with her own eyes and a face to face interview that I, Jenny DeMilo was in fact the same girl who tweeted, wrote blogs and was in the pictures on my website.

She did this because she was a REAL reporter a professional journalist. That's why i will acquiesce to certain media inquiries where they require a face to face. I know that professional journalists don't just believe whatever the Internet tells them to believe and neither should you.

So think people. Use your noggin. Take the Woodward approach of needing two separate and reliable sources of information to confirm a fact. Don't be so fucking gullible. Anyone can say hey are anything on the Internet. Astronauts, race car drivers, pirates, Tom Cruise and in the case of online hookers there are plenty of fake ones out there making up the most unbelievable crap and passing it off as legitimate and real.

I wont even get into the motivation behind perpetrating such a fraud because the Internet is a strange and weird world and people do all kinds of crazy shit from behind the protection of their computer screens. And no, i wont tell you who i know these frauds to be. If you use a little brain power you can figure it out in a hot New York second all by yourself.

5 common mistakes escorts make

Many aspiring escorts make rookie mistakes. many long time vets in the biz make them too. There's no book you can read to tell you how to be a good escort and being a good escort is so much more then just knowing out to knock a clients socks off in bed or to be great client focused company. It's running a small business and business practices do come into play, as well as using your common sense. Ive put together some common and typical mistakes escort make and some easy solutions.

1. Putting your menu on your website

DON'T do it! it can be used as evidence against you in a court of law. It really can. if you say "yeah i will have sex with you for XX dollars" they you are setting yourself up to get busted and to spend some time in the clink. You have just made yourself the easy target. Using code words like BBBJ, Greek, etc is the same thing. Just say you provide time and companionship. If someone needs specifics they can read the "fantasy" reviews other clients have written about you or some ladies without reviews provide references that potential clients can contact. Dont forget that exchanging sex for money is illgal and having a prostitution bust on your record will follow you around forever. they best thing is to do whatever you can to minimize that risk.

2. Using unprofessional and unflattering photographs

If you post nasty spread beaver shots then try to charge a hefty fee you wont get anywhere. You will get a nasty client. If every picture of you is a photo you took of yourself with your camera phone in a hotel bathroom mirror, you are putting yourself in the "cam phone" ho market. If you want to charge a pretty penny for your time, then you need to appeal to the clients with the pretty penny. That means investing in your photos. Men are visual creatures and you should present yourself in your most flattering light and that includes professionally shot, artfully staged photos. You cant be a thousand dollar escort with 100 dollar photos.

3. Undervaluing your worth

Don't be desperate, look at your market, look at your competition. It's not easy to jump markets and often where you position yourself is where you will stay. Geography does play a major role in how structure your rates so take that into consideration and then don't undervalue yourself. What is you being an escort worth to you? 200, 500, 1500? setting your rate at 200 when your city average is 400 and your competition is in the 350 range and you may get a short term gain but there are clients who wont see a 200 girl if they are a 500 dollar guy and as i already said where you start is often where you stay.

4. Running your mouth too much

And by this i mean in your appointments. Don't talk about your competition, don't gossip with clients. They are some of the biggest clucking hens out there. They love to gossip. I'm talking about "hobbyist" who are involved in the community mostly. They love to pit girls against each other and cause lots of trouble. They also love to talk, talk, talk to other hobbyists. It makes them feel important like they know secret info. The best thing to do is a lot of smiling and nodding. Let them talk, you just smile. They bring up another escort you either say " oh i dot know her but i hear shes nice" or "yes i know XX, shes been very kind to me" even if you hate the bitch. Don't get suckered into gossip.

5. Using a canned website

Just as with professional photos you need a professional website and though canned template sites are great when you're just starting out to get your feet wet. When you're ready to step up your game and be a real professional invest in a domain name that YOU control and a professional website designer who can create you a site you can maintain and update yourself with a user friendly CMS (content management system) don't be another cheap ass ho in line. Be an individual, show your personality and style. It will pay off.

Those are just a few of the common pitfalls i see girls making over and over again and they are easy to avoid if you put in a little bit of effort. Its well worth it and your bottom line will thank you.

Jenny DeMilo's Cleavage

Jenny DeMilo's Clevage, originally uploaded by Jenny Demilo.

Ive been taking some black and whites lately, mostly of my adventures around town (i post them often on twitter http://www.twitter.com/jennydemilo )I love the feel and mystery of black and white photos and moving forward i will be talking a lot more of them..of myself. I shoot most of all my own pictures and typically i use bright vibrant colors to accent my bright vibrant personality but I'm really enjoying getting a little moodier with shadow and light.

i shot this one this morning as i woke up with the light beaming in my bedroom window early in the AM. I know boys get morning wood, i however get morning cleavage.

The Porn Star Experience

Apparently i can provide a porn star experience. Now i know i usually tout myself as a GFE. I get personal and intimate with my clients. I'm responsive and present. Its what i do and I'm pretty damn good at it. Oh my last trip to Albany i was booked by a new client who was giving me to himself for his birthday. I wouldn't call him a "hobbyist" just a young guy looking to treat himself to some hassle free Jenny lovin'. The appointment almost feel though when when he saw on my FAQ's that i was a former Pro Domme as being dominated wasn't what this young man had on his agenda, as i was to find out. I assured him that there was a reason i was no longer a Domme and if he would like to be the one "large and in charge" in our encounter that i was cool with that. He took the leap and booked the appointment.

He arrived at my hotel, all 6'5" of him and i was quite pleased as its slightly unusual to have such a strapping young man cross my path, especially in Albany. I was even more pleased after the small talk was over and i was naked bent over my hotel bed getting slammed fucked by my new friend and his giant cock.

His telling me he was interested in being in charge was my cue to be the submissive fuck doll i knew he wanted. I don't always get into that kinda of session but i did this time. It was a bang brothers video reenacted right there in my upstate NY hotel room. No pussy was left un-pounded, no cock was left un-sucked, no face was left un-fucked and no stone was left unturned. I was properly screwed buy a cute guy with a large throbbing hot cock and i liked it.

The best part was that this young man was such a sweet guy, cute, and oh so tall. I just adore it when a sweet, respectful, NICE guy can tun you into a well fucked tart... in no time flat.

Wet, Naked And Knocked Up

Shot naked pictures of Little Blondie over the weekend (i know shes not very blonde right now). My make up artist assistant and favorite girl is gonna have a baby. I'm excited that any day new a new member of my extended family will be born!

oh and I swear shes a virgin, you can tell from this picture!

I might be a Whore but I'm not a Hole

The email came in like any other, a response to an ad i had placed in a city, in another state i was visiting. However i hadn't received one like this in a while...

"need you by 9:00 pm tonight. if too much bullshit, foreget about it."

Well where do i sign up! emails like this usually just go straight into the trash because lets be honest I'm not a hole don't i don't enjoy being treated as one. That's exactly what this email does, let me break it down.

1. no salutation or greeting- devoid of using my name ( to further dehumanize me)
2. a demanding i need you by 9pm tonight inquiry (with no mention of screening info)
3. "if its to much bullshit..." (again implies screening with be an issue, in fact it implies everything will be an issue)
4. miss spelling of "forget" (to much trouble to even run a spell check)

Those are just the glaringly obvious red flags on this play. This goes deeper, there are two types of guys that send these kinds of emails and its my job to figure which camp i think this little piece of email joy fits into.

1. socially unaware - has ZERO idea of how to speak to women let alone escorts.
2. men who hate women

lets take the socially unaware guys. He sends an email with no social graces because he has none. No greeting, no reference to anything i request on my booking form, no info about himself, no reference actually reading my site, he probably didn't. He saw a picture, he grunted and sent the email (well at least he didn't call) If i thought the email was in this camp i could send him back an email asking for more info draw him out and see where could lead, it could turn into a successful appointment but id be aware meeting this guy in person, he would also have no social graces face to face.

Men who hate women. He hates women and treats them disrespectfully even in an email because they are all whores... yanno just like his mother. To him escorts are just a hole and you never have to be kind or polite to a hole. You don't read a holes website to get a feel from it to see if you are a good fit, cuz all you wanna do is fit your dick in a hole. You don't politely ask if you are available on short notice by 9pm this evening because you are in a tight schedule, you send a one line demand and add the caveat that "if" its to much bullshit "foreget" about it and you don't even take the time to run a spell check over it, i mean why? you're emailing a hole not a person.

It was pretty easy for me to see this email for what it was immediately and which group Mr Charm belonged to and i responded accordingly - i refuse to be treated like a hole and i will weed your dumb ass out in a heartbeat. I might be a whore but I'm not a hole and i still have and always will have the choice as to who i will share my time and body with. As much as that chaps the women haters hides i don't care, even us whores have the right to refuse them and we do... all the time.

Oh prince charming take me away....

No i am not available after the bars close drunk caller. Yes, i can tell you're drunk even though you are not slurring, how you ask? well its 2:19 am when you called to "check my availability" Yes i was asleep and yes you did wake me up. I'm sorry I'm wasn't the tweaker ho up all night, ready on a moments notice, dying to invite you over to her incall that you were looking for. Had you read my site (ha! yeah right) you would have seen that i generally need 24 hours advance notice for incall anyways and outcall if you call at 2:19am means i cant be ready until 3:19 (well hell i was asleep an hour is good time) then travel time to get to you 4:19 (its LA there's even traffic at night) and well you're passed out by then and I'm left pounding on your front door in a fit of rage while the sun comes up.

See how that goes mister middle of the night drunk caller? Just jerk off when you're drunk and calling escorts in the middle of the night, in fact how about this, DON'T call them and annoy them. You're not serious and you wouldn't be any good in the sack anyways. I mean your DRUNK, its late and lets face it you probably have issues in that arena anyways.

I'm just far to responsible to be available to drunk guys right before dawn and ruin my whole next day due to lack of sleep and having to deal with horny disrespectful drunks. I know, i know i have to remember to tun off my bat phone when i go to bed.... next time!

At The Mirage

Jenn in Vegas, originally uploaded by Jenny Demilo.

I went to Vegas earlier this month and got a room in the newly renovated Mirage, for a super deal I might add. I took a couple of quick snaps with my remote as i always travel with my camera. I should have taken more because the room had this retro swagger to it. Maybe i will get the Mirage again when im next in Vegas... in September.

But, but, but .. you're a whore!

So I've been reading the hooker message boards and zeroing in on this months latest trend. Men upset that the "whores" wont service them. But you're a whore you HAVE to see anyone who will pay you. You don't have choices because you're a whore. You cant refuse me for being a entitled ass hat because you're a WHORE

whore whore whore whore!

I'm quite sure i know what it is a do for a living, i mean i am the one fucking strangers in hotels for greenbacks but thanks for the reminder. The real question is, what is up with these guys? Have they been refused by the "whores" a lot? doubtful, my guess is they are the guys who when they were young men maybe in high-school maybe when thy were a little older who's greatest fear with women was/is... rejection.

They feel powerless, they are not comfortable engaging women in a real way and have eventually found themselves in the pay for play game. Because they feel that when they pay they have the power and the fact that a WHORE could reject them is one of their greatest fears. To get rejected by a women who gets paid to be there is so scary to them that they go on a rampage on message boards to try to get though to these whores and their supporters they they whores shouldn't have a choice so that they will never be in the position to be rejected by one. So they act out anonymously on message boards because if they used their real"handles" they whores might not see them so they have to do it from behind a mask and berate the whores, incite them men who generally like the whores and stomp their little feet and gnash their little teeth.

if it didn't get so tiresome or wasn't so pathetic, I'd find it funny.

it can be hurtful no matter how thick your skin is to be denigrated by a segment of a community who really should be more supportive since they engage in the same activities be it on the other side of the fence. Sex workers are often terribly put down by society we are not accepted and its disheartening when we are not accepted by our own. it can grate on you and often does.

I'm sure I'm just being an uppity whore.

I once had a friend

I once had a friend, who's a "hobbyist" we hung out, i liked him, he portrayed himself to be although at times a little immature for his advanced, age a nice guy who's intentions and heart was in the right place. I couldn't have been more wrong. It often takes a crisis to really see what someone is made of. You learn more about people about how they act when they are confronted with an emergency then you do sitting at dinner after dinner with them. Call it the stress reflex if you like.

This friend had a personal crisis and i saw a side of him i never thought i would. Mean, unethical, lying, lashing out. It made me sad, but it also made it impossible for me to continue to be active friends with him. I cant be around that kind of toxic poison. I was also a little upset with myself for being taken in but his outward facade.

In this business we often want to connect with people who understand and except what we do for a living. Its hard lying to the people around you all the time so we seek out like minded people, this is more often then not a HUGE mistake. It has been with me on several occasions. I am not immune to wanting to connect with people who share my experiences and my free spirited attitude.

In this case this "friend"has passively aggressively made attempts to make me feel bad, hurt my feelings, bait me into arguing with him on various message boards and even backhandedly threaten my business model - wtf.

I will continue to ignore him as best i can. its not always easy but i will try. Maybe he will buy himself a young pretty girlfriend soon and he wont have time to bother me anymore.

or get run over by a bus... oh a girl can dream.