Tuesday, January 12, 2010

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Saturday, January 9, 2010

Typical Friday Night


Just a typical Friday at Casa de Jenny. Me, lace panties, letting my fingers do the walking. This is actually a hard shot to get because you have to stretch out and hold very still. Not something you usually do while your hand is resting on your clit. But I kept tryin' until I got what I wanted... err the shot, yeah I mean the shot.

Then I posted it for #TwitterAfterDark cuz im good like that

Friday, January 1, 2010

"It'll be just like starting over"

I don't much believe in New Years resolutions but I do believe in new beginnings. I don't think you have to wait for the new year to make changes in your life.

I started to make changes in my life a few months ago, as a result my availability as an escort has been severely limited. I've been working in my chosen field the one I went to college for, the one I abandoned years back and needed a much needed break from. I just dont have time to rock worlds they way I used to, I have deadlines, meetings and I'm accountable to people other than myself. I didn't know how much I missed my old life until i started to get back to it.

I also began to take my health more seriously. Listening to and taking my doctors advice on changing my diet to help manage my life long struggle with a seizure disorder. I've gone no carb, which is not easy to do but man oh man does it work. I feel better, I look better and I haven't had a seizure since I've eliminated carbohydrates from my diet.

My personal life has also evolved, it's exciting and as is my custom challenging. I never do things the easy way. My relationship is long distance which can be heartbreaking at times. I'm also a fiercely independent person and with all the changes I'm making I might need to ease into being accountable full time to another person. Maybe the long distance thing is not so bad after all. It sure does make you really think about what you want out of/from another person and be direct and communicative. As opposed to just falling into something with someone and letting it take a course.

So back to resolutions, they really are just ways to make changes for the better. You don't need a time of year, a deadline or a reason to do that. You don't need to make a declaration or a pronouncement you just need to take baby steps and set obtainable goals for yourself and remember not to punish yourself too much when you fail because failing is a part of learning and growing.

I should know, I fail all the time but I grow and change in the process. It's a worthwhile endeavour you really should try it some time.

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

"Can you tell which thing is not like the others"

When I first wrote a blog entry warning people not to believe everything on they saw on the Internets and that fake hookers walked among us, I didn't mean to start a firestorm. But that's just what happened. Who knew that so many legit, well reviewed, long time activists and respected members of the escort community also thought that the emperor wore no clothes, I know i didn't.

Soon after my article went up I was contacted and interviewed by Monica Shores for a story she was writing for Carnal Nation about sex workers who write about their lives and work and the accountability of bloggers. What happened after that, has taken on a life of its own.

I never mentioned who I thought the most egregious of the impostors was (there are a few) leaving the reader to think about reality versus fantasy, fact verses fiction. The whole point of the blog post was to encourage people to question and think for themselves. Giving away who the usurper was, would be counterproductive to my goal of trying to get people to use their noggins and THINK!

but to my surprise.. just like a terrorist bomber, she claimed responsibility.

My blog, twitter and brochure site were linked to her site, along with all kinds of nutty convoluted, backasswords babble, coupled with her responding to the quotes of mine that were published in the Carnal Nation story. Oh goody... web hits! Never one to look a gift horse in the mouth I welcomed my new twitter followers and crossed my fingers that the click-overs would bookmark me and come back and read again another day. Though I was pretty disappointed in the numbers. Having heard "Princess Cariboo" brag for so long about how many hits she was getting to her blog and how popular she was, I really had hoped for more traffic then I got. It was rather paltry compared to say the people linking my story about the bust in Houston (thanks fellas!)

I did however get a flurry of emails from people sharing their personal experiences of interactions with "Dr Charlotte Bach" and how they thought she was a fraud, man, cop, reporter, failed screen writer. It was pretty entertaining as these people never would have found me had Zelig not linked me and created an online scene. As I said before, I never said who I believe to be the biggest faker in the land, just that there was one.

Some have even tried to devise schemes like Mistress Matisse, she suggests that miss-fake-alot call in to Dan Savage - to what, umm prove shes got a female voice I suppose. Well hot damn! I wanna call into Dan Savage too, I've always been a huge fan of him and his work and If he hears my voice he will have to show the world that I am really Cinderella. We all know that Cinderella was female. Besides it's not like there any record of my previous work as a sexy voice over artist or podcaster to compare my voice or anyone who will recognise me as someone other than who I say I am. What a wonderful Idea. Where's his number!

Then I started getting the links... ahhh the links, truly golden. This story had legs and it was taking a walk. Let me share them with you now.

Kat Stories: This faux ho's life as a stripper doesn't ring true to real live working strippers.

There's a whole stripper forum discussion about her fake-a-bility

Seattle writer/professional dominatrix Mistress Matisse has her own take on why someone would pretend to be a sex worker... "for the attention."

Tasty Trixie: who brings up the most compelling argument pointing out Fakey McFakerson's position as a blatant unrepentant content thief. Acting much like a trick who thinks he's entitled to a freebie.

Male bloggers have even written about it calling this "David Hampton" wannabe "the worst kept secret" and writes about how on private message boards she was whispered about and laughed at.

Amber Rhea re-posted a quote from the Carnal Nation story to her tumbler

The first person to publicly question her and the most damaging accusation, bringing up her self proclaimed inappropriate behavior with minors

there are tweets too
Amberlily, Kat Stories Adora Cash Zoeynym Melissa Gira Vivian DaSilva Vivian Again Furrygirl Bubbles

***My favorite tweets (added 12/23) are from BluEyedCass, model and webcam girl *** ( it's her pictures fake-o-holic was stealing and passing off as her own)

It just keeps going and i'd be surprised if this was the end of it. People have been discussing this Pierre Plantard in their private circles for a while and its just bubbling to the surface now. Is this the only fake hooker out there running around the innertubes screaming "look at me, look at me"? Naw, but she is the one that got the furthest in the charade in a long time.

Writing the truth of sex work is hard. It's not all fun and games until someone loses an eye. It's a roller coaster of emotions, it's complex and challenging. It's not a flat one trick pony of nymphomaniac fantasies... no matter what some wanna be Michael Sabo would lead you to believe.

Sunday, December 20, 2009

Meet and Greets- the new place to get arrested!

There was a meet and greet busted in Houston recently. (Yeah Houston was busted again). Meet and greets are like cocktail parties where potential clients and working escorts can get together and meet and mingle. There are all different kinds of parties Many are very tame like your typical office cocktail party all the way to a full on orgy, though those are pretty rare these days and usually very hard to get an invite too.

The typical meet and greet is much like any other business networking get together. People of like minds meet at a public restaurant, bar, banquet hall and have a few cocktails and exchange contact info for get togethers on later dates. I understand why these are popular with the men. They get to see the girls in person, no need to interpret the photos on her site. Often girls who blur their face show up. The girls are there to gain new business. They will flirt with you and try to charm you into committing to book a session with them. So yeah they guys love them, especially the guys who never or rarely book with girls. Why book when you can go to a meet and greet play a little grab ass have the girl cater to you , flirt with you and charm you. You get all you need by going to the party. Meet and Greets are always full of lookie loos.

These parties can often have a theme, I for instance host a meet and greet with a toys4tots theme most holiday years. I didn't this year and I'm glad I didn't after hearing about what happened in Houston last week.

A Houston toys4tots meet and greet was busted and raided by the cops. A local Houston message and review board was infiltrated by law enforcement for 4 months prior and they busted the party. Peoples faces were splashed all over the news, girls and guys were handcuffed and put in paddy wagons (which are not fun like pussy wagons) and hauled away for attending a cocktail party. Now its not illegal to go to a party, its not illegal to say i like hookers and go to a party, its not illegal to say I'm an escort and go to a party. But the Houston cops had spent 4 months building a case against these people. Likely collecting salacious messages on the message board, reviews, naughty incriminating comments and the like.

My guess is there was some kinda raffle in place to raise money for toys for tots. I've seen this done on the small boards before when they are trying to raise cash for an event, person who is sick and needs helps, etc. Girls donate services, guys buy tickets, proceeds go to the cause. If you did that at a meet and greet to raise money for say Toys4tots.... will THAT would be prostitution and THAT is illegal.

I'm sure the bulk of those cases wont stick, especially of people keep their fat mouths shut and don't make deals to roll over or freak out. Its a publicity gag, it makes for a good story. How did the TV cameras get there to splash those peoples faces on the news? Why the police called them and told them to get ready for some good footage and a good story. It makes it look like the police in Houston are doing their jobs if they bust a bunch of consenting adults attending a cocktail party and bringing toys for needy kids! Way to go spending all those tax payer dollars Houston PD!

The concern is this though, its not hard to infiltrate any online community if you have a small amount of savvy and a lot of patience. I've been expecting it to happen and it finally did. If it happened in Houston, it can happen anywhere. Lookie loos have been doing it for years, of they can do it anyone can. As prostitution becomes more and more online focused that's where the police will go to make their busts and to keep their numbers up. Do you want your face on the local news because you wanted to play a little grab ass with a hooker or because you wanted to try to book one more hour appointment that week? is it worth the risk.

Not for me and i wont be going to any meet and greets for a very long time... I don't need to be on the news... nope not me.

Saturday, December 19, 2009

How to never get a reference from Jenny DeMilo

Part of being an escort that cares about other escorts safety is being reference friendly. What that means is an escort will ask a potential client for another lady he's visited to vouch for him. The potential client gives the new lady the contact info of the lady vouching him and then she emails her asking for the reference.

I've been reference friendly since I began as an escort, I'm always happy to help a lady and a client out by doing my part to keep everyone safe. I rarely have an issue, the ladies I've dealt with when I requested a reference have pretty much been polite, responsive and friendly. Of course I know that they are doing me a personal favor by giving me the reference and I make sure when contacting them that I show my appreciation, making sure to give them all the info they will need, including my own so they can verify my legitimacy. Making it as easily as possible for them. They are not required to do me this favor and taking that approach has worked like a charm. I pretty much never have issue getting references from other escorts.

When giving out a reference I have on a few occasions had to ask ladies for additional information but not very often. Usually its from a new girl. I just ask for more info, she gets to me then I'm able to help her out. I never give a reference if I'm not 100% sure of who shes asking about. Which brings me to today's issue. I finally had my first problem trying to help another girl out with a reference. Yeah i said in giving another girl a reference I had an issue trying to help her out.

Some escort emailed me asking for a reference, I was not at home where I could access the info she needed but I wrote her back right away from my iPhone telling her I wasn't near the info and that id get it to her as soon as I was able to get back home. When I got home I was able to verify the info and give her the reference. So I got back to her with the thumbs up on the client in less then 5 hours.

Next I hear from my client that he had used me as a reference but the girl was saying I never got back to her and was there an issue with me vouching for him? Since i had responded to the only reference i got for him, I asked him to tell her to send in the request again. I was the same girl she sent in another request and this time I cc'd the client with my vouch so he would know I got back to her. This time I was able to get her the reference within the hour.

Today a week later, I heard from her a third time asking her if it was my policy not to give references, as "a few potential clients" had given me as a reference and I hadn't gotten back to her. I wrote her back AGAIN and told her I had given her the references. I thought maybe her email wasn't working correctly because she had never responded to any of my return emails to say thanks (like most girls do) and i had cc'd the only client she asked me about and he responded so he know I vouched for him. I went to her website, filled out her contact form and told her I had sent in the refs and for her to check her hosting and spam folder.

I never heard back from her regarding the web form email, so i gave her a call to let her know there was an email issue. Not being anywhere near a work phone I had to call from a blocked number and figured if I got voice mail I would leave a message. To my surprise she answered the blocked call. it went like this....

ring ring...
Her: CAN YOU CALL FROM AN UNBLOCKED NUMBER!!
Me: I cant this is Jenny DeMilo you asked me for a reference
Her: click

Yup she hung up on me. She asked me to do her a favor, then she hung up on me. I called back and left her a not so nice voice mail telling her to stop telling clients I didn't reference them that I had and her email was fucked up.

This whole incident really got under my skin so I waited a bit figuring she would get the voice mail realize the blocked caller was another escort she wanted a reference from and I gave her another call. She yelled again upon answering the blocked call and before I could say "do you want the reference or not" she hung up on me. So i called a third time left her a voice mail telling her she had a lot of nerve and to not ask me for any favors in the future.

Then the emails began from her. I swear this bitch is crazy, she sent me several chastising emails. Really? You ask me for a favor, I do that favor and you email me and scold me? So my response was short and sweet something to the affect of don't contact me again and ask for any favors, you crazy bitch, I might have suggested she get off the pipe too.

I don't know where some people get the nerve. I know a lot of cracked out crazy whores are attracted to this business but I usually am able to steer clear of them, at least I try to. This crazy ho took the cake. I thought clients had entitlement issues, this twat was worse then any client who thought I owed them something for nothing.

umm well you dumb cunt, I don't owe you shit your emails are now banished to the cornfield... fuck you and happy holidays :)

Monday, November 23, 2009

"Fraud and falsehood only dread examination"

Since hookers are the new black and by that i mean it's almost acceptable to be a sex worker these days. There are T.V. shows, movies and articles written about us all the time now. Though its still not in the mainstream, it's a lot more acceptable then it was just a few short years ago when i started working. As a result I've noticed a new trend. Though trend might be an over exaggeration. What I've observed is fake online sex workers. Yes i said fake. What that means is fairly high profile "escorts" that are not real working escorts. They are made up figments of their creators imaginations. With a little knowledge, a little research, it would be easy to make up a very salacious prolific online persona that was a sex worker and that is just what some people have done.

It angers me and makes me laugh my ass off, when I see people fall for this shtick. It angers me because these made up persona's are setting themselves up to represent the profession I work in and they are not real. I work hard to give my honest account of the sex worker subculture and my place in it. To not sugar coat, sensationalize or glamorize what I do. I am as honest about it as I can be. When you see people who are just making up stuff out of thin air, being touted as "authorities" on the subject of sex work, when you see these sock puppets being as sensationalistic as they can be to draw as much attention to themselves as humanly possible.... its upsetting.

When you watch the blind masses falling for it, its often sad and hilarious. How betrayed will these people feel when they find out that hot sexy little minx they read the blogs of, follow on twitter or Facebook feel when its revealed that the "sex worker" isn't a sex worker at all but some made up persona who doesn't exist. Someone who capitalized on a trend that took the ball and ran with it and MADE UP a person? I think they will feel quite betrayed because they cheer for her, believe in her sexual freedom, encourage her to succeed and support her. They do get invested in her and she is not real. How much backlash will there be for us REAL sex workers when these fakes are eventually outed for what they are. For most sex workers who quietly go about their business it probably wont impact them much but for the activists who work daily to decriminalize and fight for the rights of sex workers and for a girl like me who does speak to the press, does write honest accounts about her feelings of being involved in this world, there will be just that much more work to do to convince people were not all drugged addicted, pimped out skanks, who cant do anything but spread our legs for a fast buck. That is the real disservice these fakes do. When it is revealed they are fake no one will believe that the intelligent sex workers who speak out...are real.

I was interviewed for the LA Times this summer. The reporter wanted to meet me face to face. I agreed after checking her and out ascertaining she was in fact real herself. She explained to me why she needed to meet me face to face, it was simple, she originally thought i wasn't real. She wasn't ingrained into the escort world (most reporters aren't) She didn't know how to asses someone legitimacy with reviews, screening services, etc.. she needed to confirm with her own eyes and a face to face interview that I, Jenny DeMilo was in fact the same girl who tweeted, wrote blogs and was in the pictures on my website.

She did this because she was a REAL reporter a professional journalist. That's why i will acquiesce to certain media inquiries where they require a face to face. I know that professional journalists don't just believe whatever the Internet tells them to believe and neither should you.

So think people. Use your noggin. Take the Woodward approach of needing two separate and reliable sources of information to confirm a fact. Don't be so fucking gullible. Anyone can say hey are anything on the Internet. Astronauts, race car drivers, pirates, Tom Cruise and in the case of online hookers there are plenty of fake ones out there making up the most unbelievable crap and passing it off as legitimate and real.

I wont even get into the motivation behind perpetrating such a fraud because the Internet is a strange and weird world and people do all kinds of crazy shit from behind the protection of their computer screens. And no, i wont tell you who i know these frauds to be. If you use a little brain power you can figure it out in a hot New York second all by yourself.

Friday, November 20, 2009

5 common mistakes escorts make

Many aspiring escorts make rookie mistakes. many long time vets in the biz make them too. There's no book you can read to tell you how to be a good escort and being a good escort is so much more then just knowing out to knock a clients socks off in bed or to be great client focused company. It's running a small business and business practices do come into play, as well as using your common sense. Ive put together some common and typical mistakes escort make and some easy solutions.

1. Putting your menu on your website

DON'T do it! it can be used as evidence against you in a court of law. It really can. if you say "yeah i will have sex with you for XX dollars" they you are setting yourself up to get busted and to spend some time in the clink. You have just made yourself the easy target. Using code words like BBBJ, Greek, etc is the same thing. Just say you provide time and companionship. If someone needs specifics they can read the "fantasy" reviews other clients have written about you or some ladies without reviews provide references that potential clients can contact. Dont forget that exchanging sex for money is illgal and having a prostitution bust on your record will follow you around forever. they best thing is to do whatever you can to minimize that risk.

2. Using unprofessional and unflattering photographs

If you post nasty spread beaver shots then try to charge a hefty fee you wont get anywhere. You will get a nasty client. If every picture of you is a photo you took of yourself with your camera phone in a hotel bathroom mirror, you are putting yourself in the "cam phone" ho market. If you want to charge a pretty penny for your time, then you need to appeal to the clients with the pretty penny. That means investing in your photos. Men are visual creatures and you should present yourself in your most flattering light and that includes professionally shot, artfully staged photos. You cant be a thousand dollar escort with 100 dollar photos.

3. Undervaluing your worth

Don't be desperate, look at your market, look at your competition. It's not easy to jump markets and often where you position yourself is where you will stay. Geography does play a major role in how structure your rates so take that into consideration and then don't undervalue yourself. What is you being an escort worth to you? 200, 500, 1500? setting your rate at 200 when your city average is 400 and your competition is in the 350 range and you may get a short term gain but there are clients who wont see a 200 girl if they are a 500 dollar guy and as i already said where you start is often where you stay.

4. Running your mouth too much

And by this i mean in your appointments. Don't talk about your competition, don't gossip with clients. They are some of the biggest clucking hens out there. They love to gossip. I'm talking about "hobbyist" who are involved in the community mostly. They love to pit girls against each other and cause lots of trouble. They also love to talk, talk, talk to other hobbyists. It makes them feel important like they know secret info. The best thing to do is a lot of smiling and nodding. Let them talk, you just smile. They bring up another escort you either say " oh i dot know her but i hear shes nice" or "yes i know XX, shes been very kind to me" even if you hate the bitch. Don't get suckered into gossip.

5. Using a canned website

Just as with professional photos you need a professional website and though canned template sites are great when you're just starting out to get your feet wet. When you're ready to step up your game and be a real professional invest in a domain name that YOU control and a professional website designer who can create you a site you can maintain and update yourself with a user friendly CMS (content management system) don't be another cheap ass ho in line. Be an individual, show your personality and style. It will pay off.

Those are just a few of the common pitfalls i see girls making over and over again and they are easy to avoid if you put in a little bit of effort. Its well worth it and your bottom line will thank you.

Sunday, November 8, 2009

Jenny DeMilo's Cleavage


Jenny DeMilo's Clevage, originally uploaded by Jenny Demilo.

Ive been taking some black and whites lately, mostly of my adventures around town (i post them often on twitter http://www.twitter.com/jennydemilo )I love the feel and mystery of black and white photos and moving forward i will be talking a lot more of them..of myself. I shoot most of all my own pictures and typically i use bright vibrant colors to accent my bright vibrant personality but I'm really enjoying getting a little moodier with shadow and light.

i shot this one this morning as i woke up with the light beaming in my bedroom window early in the AM. I know boys get morning wood, i however get morning cleavage.

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

The Porn Star Experience

Apparently i can provide a porn star experience. Now i know i usually tout myself as a GFE. I get personal and intimate with my clients. I'm responsive and present. Its what i do and I'm pretty damn good at it. Oh my last trip to Albany i was booked by a new client who was giving me to himself for his birthday. I wouldn't call him a "hobbyist" just a young guy looking to treat himself to some hassle free Jenny lovin'. The appointment almost feel though when when he saw on my FAQ's that i was a former Pro Domme as being dominated wasn't what this young man had on his agenda, as i was to find out. I assured him that there was a reason i was no longer a Domme and if he would like to be the one "large and in charge" in our encounter that i was cool with that. He took the leap and booked the appointment.

He arrived at my hotel, all 6'5" of him and i was quite pleased as its slightly unusual to have such a strapping young man cross my path, especially in Albany. I was even more pleased after the small talk was over and i was naked bent over my hotel bed getting slammed fucked by my new friend and his giant cock.

His telling me he was interested in being in charge was my cue to be the submissive fuck doll i knew he wanted. I don't always get into that kinda of session but i did this time. It was a bang brothers video reenacted right there in my upstate NY hotel room. No pussy was left un-pounded, no cock was left un-sucked, no face was left un-fucked and no stone was left unturned. I was properly screwed buy a cute guy with a large throbbing hot cock and i liked it.

The best part was that this young man was such a sweet guy, cute, and oh so tall. I just adore it when a sweet, respectful, NICE guy can tun you into a well fucked tart... in no time flat.