How to never get a reference from Jenny DeMilo

Part of being an escort that cares about other escorts safety is being reference friendly. What that means is an escort will ask a potential client for another lady he's visited to vouch for him. The potential client gives the new lady the contact info of the lady vouching him and then she emails her asking for the reference.

I've been reference friendly since I began as an escort, I'm always happy to help a lady and a client out by doing my part to keep everyone safe. I rarely have an issue, the ladies I've dealt with when I requested a reference have pretty much been polite, responsive and friendly. Of course I know that they are doing me a personal favor by giving me the reference and I make sure when contacting them that I show my appreciation, making sure to give them all the info they will need, including my own so they can verify my legitimacy. Making it as easily as possible for them. They are not required to do me this favor and taking that approach has worked like a charm. I pretty much never have issue getting references from other escorts.

When giving out a reference I have on a few occasions had to ask ladies for additional information but not very often. Usually its from a new girl. I just ask for more info, she gets to me then I'm able to help her out. I never give a reference if I'm not 100% sure of who shes asking about. Which brings me to today's issue. I finally had my first problem trying to help another girl out with a reference. Yeah i said in giving another girl a reference I had an issue trying to help her out.

Some escort emailed me asking for a reference, I was not at home where I could access the info she needed but I wrote her back right away from my iPhone telling her I wasn't near the info and that id get it to her as soon as I was able to get back home. When I got home I was able to verify the info and give her the reference. So I got back to her with the thumbs up on the client in less then 5 hours.

Next I hear from my client that he had used me as a reference but the girl was saying I never got back to her and was there an issue with me vouching for him? Since i had responded to the only reference i got for him, I asked him to tell her to send in the request again. I was the same girl she sent in another request and this time I cc'd the client with my vouch so he would know I got back to her. This time I was able to get her the reference within the hour.

Today a week later, I heard from her a third time asking her if it was my policy not to give references, as "a few potential clients" had given me as a reference and I hadn't gotten back to her. I wrote her back AGAIN and told her I had given her the references. I thought maybe her email wasn't working correctly because she had never responded to any of my return emails to say thanks (like most girls do) and i had cc'd the only client she asked me about and he responded so he know I vouched for him. I went to her website, filled out her contact form and told her I had sent in the refs and for her to check her hosting and spam folder.

I never heard back from her regarding the web form email, so i gave her a call to let her know there was an email issue. Not being anywhere near a work phone I had to call from a blocked number and figured if I got voice mail I would leave a message. To my surprise she answered the blocked call. it went like this....

ring ring...
Her: CAN YOU CALL FROM AN UNBLOCKED NUMBER!!
Me: I cant this is Jenny DeMilo you asked me for a reference
Her: click

Yup she hung up on me. She asked me to do her a favor, then she hung up on me. I called back and left her a not so nice voice mail telling her to stop telling clients I didn't reference them that I had and her email was fucked up.

This whole incident really got under my skin so I waited a bit figuring she would get the voice mail realize the blocked caller was another escort she wanted a reference from and I gave her another call. She yelled again upon answering the blocked call and before I could say "do you want the reference or not" she hung up on me. So i called a third time left her a voice mail telling her she had a lot of nerve and to not ask me for any favors in the future.

Then the emails began from her. I swear this bitch is crazy, she sent me several chastising emails. Really? You ask me for a favor, I do that favor and you email me and scold me? So my response was short and sweet something to the affect of don't contact me again and ask for any favors, you crazy bitch, I might have suggested she get off the pipe too.

I don't know where some people get the nerve. I know a lot of cracked out crazy whores are attracted to this business but I usually am able to steer clear of them, at least I try to. This crazy ho took the cake. I thought clients had entitlement issues, this twat was worse then any client who thought I owed them something for nothing.

umm well you dumb cunt, I don't owe you shit your emails are now banished to the cornfield... fuck you and happy holidays :)

But, but, but .. you're a whore!

So I've been reading the hooker message boards and zeroing in on this months latest trend. Men upset that the "whores" wont service them. But you're a whore you HAVE to see anyone who will pay you. You don't have choices because you're a whore. You cant refuse me for being a entitled ass hat because you're a WHORE

whore whore whore whore!

I'm quite sure i know what it is a do for a living, i mean i am the one fucking strangers in hotels for greenbacks but thanks for the reminder. The real question is, what is up with these guys? Have they been refused by the "whores" a lot? doubtful, my guess is they are the guys who when they were young men maybe in high-school maybe when thy were a little older who's greatest fear with women was/is... rejection.

They feel powerless, they are not comfortable engaging women in a real way and have eventually found themselves in the pay for play game. Because they feel that when they pay they have the power and the fact that a WHORE could reject them is one of their greatest fears. To get rejected by a women who gets paid to be there is so scary to them that they go on a rampage on message boards to try to get though to these whores and their supporters they they whores shouldn't have a choice so that they will never be in the position to be rejected by one. So they act out anonymously on message boards because if they used their real"handles" they whores might not see them so they have to do it from behind a mask and berate the whores, incite them men who generally like the whores and stomp their little feet and gnash their little teeth.

if it didn't get so tiresome or wasn't so pathetic, I'd find it funny.

it can be hurtful no matter how thick your skin is to be denigrated by a segment of a community who really should be more supportive since they engage in the same activities be it on the other side of the fence. Sex workers are often terribly put down by society we are not accepted and its disheartening when we are not accepted by our own. it can grate on you and often does.

I'm sure I'm just being an uppity whore.

Hit The Road Jack...

I decided to start touring earlier then i previously planned. I'm going out on the road in a few days with the ever perky Audrey Trouble. I got ancy and twitchy to get started, what can i say. So first stop is Boston, MA. I've never been and though it will be extra cold ( i mean extra, extra cold for a Cali girl like me) i want to try to get out and do at least one Boston-ish kinda thing. I don't want my first trip to be just seeing the 4 walls of my hotel... and a lot of cock. However I have no idea what to do. Should i see something historical, or go to a famous Boston restaurant, reenact the Boston tea party in my panties and fuck me pumps? I'm sure i will figure it out eventually. I know while I'm there I'm gonna take some snappies (that's photos to the unaware) of Heather Jana, local Bostonian hottie for hire, so that will be fun.

After Boston ... Vegas. Always a fun place for me. I'll be there the week after Superbowl plus it's the week of the concrete and tile conventions. That means manly men will abound and those types really do appreciate a dirty girl like myself.

After Vegas I'm home for a little bit and i get to spend some quality time with the pooch... oh and the main man before i head out once again to places unknown and destinations exotic.. okay maybe just destinations Midwestern.

I just hope i dont see a man on the wing of the plane, cuz that would be a nightmare at 20,000 feet.

Hit the road Jack

So i'm starting to think about touring for next year. Ive done a little bit in the past but usually its to Vegas, which I've pretty much figured out. After the winter thaw this next year I'm going to be hitting the road once a month and going on short mini tours to different cities across the nation.

I have a special needs pooch i have to send to "dog camp" while I'm gone so I'm not going to do any 2/3 week treks but i will go out for a 3 days to a week every month and try out some new cities and see what i can make of it.

I'm nervous because touring means financial investments as well as time away from your home market (where i do pretty good) and you never really know if its going to pay off. You kinda have to jump in blind with both feet, rely on your research and hope for the best. I know girls who clean up touring. However the economy is changing on almost a daily basis so working smart is essential. I can not afford to go to a city and have it be a bust (not literally! i screen to avoid that!) So in an effort to make sure i don't screw it up and to waylay my touring fears i will throw myself into research and anxiety mode until March maybe April when I'm slated to begin city hopping once a month. That's right i will trade fear for anxiety!

Some places I'm thinking about visiting:
New Jersey/NYC
Washington DC (and surrounding areas)
Minneapolis
Chicago
The Carolinas
there's a few others but im still looking into them, if anyone out there has suggestions of good places to visit or touring tips and tricks... then fire away. I need all the anxiety relief i can get ;)

So you wanna be a hooker?

Every time there's a big mainstream media article about Hookers i get contacted by young hopefuls asking for advice on how to get into the game of pay for play companionship. With Radars recent debacle (hipster hookers my ass) the amount of mail I'm getting asking for advice is off the hook. So to save myself from having to repeat myself over and over to inquiring minds i thought id share some of my words of wisdom, advice, warnings, ramblings or what ever you wanna call it.

My first bit of advice is: DON'T DO IT.
There are girls who have stellar reviews and long standing reputations who are not making ends meat right now. Wanting to get into the escort business at this time is like wanting to get into the employment game after 911, there is little work. The economy is bad and its an election year which always causes work to cease.

If you still want to brave the bad economy and heavy competition here are some things to think about.

Get a professional website: Make sure you have a stats package so you can see where your referring hits are coming from. This will be really helpful, you can see where you advertising efforts ie dollars are paying off and converting to clicks to your site. You want to work smarter not harder.

Get professional pictures: Makes all the difference in the world. Classy pictures attract, classy clients. Skanky pictures ... well you get the picture.

What will you do for money: Don't let anyone talk you out of your comfort zone ... ever.

Screen Clients: You need a way to be sure someone is who he says he is so you don't get into trouble and you need to make sure someone isn't scary to see. This is VERY important, always screen potentials. You need to become a JR private eye. You must be 100% sure of who you are seeing, if they don't screen, then don't see them. Never drop your guard no matter how broke you are. Don't get greedy.

Watch the competition: http://www.eros-guide.com look at the ads for the girls in your area, see what they charge how they present themselves. Who do you want to be?

Treat it like a business: Be professional in your dealings with others. Investments of time and money are necessary to be successful, as with any business.

Keep your personal information PERSONAL: Be careful who you trust, its an isolating business, it can get tough, you often feel like you live in a bubble and will want to reach out to others in the subculture. Chose your friends wisely. This is a cut throat business and there are lots of people who are nuts attracted to it. You are who your friends are to some degree, someone else's rep can spill over to you. Someone with your personal information can really hurt you. I was outed, its not fun, it can be devastating.

Don't quit your day job: Living off the grid is difficult, you want to appear as normal as possible. Its tiring to be an escort and have a day job but in the long run you will have more to show for it.

Besides all that, i go back to my first bit of advice... I don't recommend ANYONE do this.

It's not easy money, you work HARD for it and it takes a toll on you physically and emotionally. It makes real interpersonal relationships hard... for most, impossible. You have to lie to the people you love and care about on a daily basis and that is a very hard thing to do, it gets much harder over time, living a double life is not easy. Its a risky business (emotionally, physically) if you insist on being an escort you need to work smart and minimize your risk. Not everyone is cut out to do this, you have to be able to compartmentalize your emotions, you have to be able to reject societies stigma, its not glamour and glitz, it has its moments but this is job and a job with real risks.

Escorts are risk managers, we have to be its how we survive.

Double, Double Toil and Trouble

Double sessions are tiring. Now you would think and i feel most people do believe that being as there are two fun, sexy, hot chicks sharing the "work" that duos would be less tiring then doing them alone, one on one. I am not buying into that urban myth as i sit here, muscles still sore for the last evenings activities. With a double session there are three bodies trying fit into the sexcapade puzzle and let me tell you its often very much like making puzzle pieces fit and that can be havoc on the bod. I mean have you ever tried to get your face upside down and your mouth on a mans balls while on your knees as your girlfriend/partner is blowing him and not get yourself smacked in the face by her bobbing head all while balancing in some half awkward squat, with a smile on your face like its really the bomb diggity? Then doing it again 90 minutes later with an even shorter guy and an even more strained position?

let me tell ya the dont call it sex "work" for nuttin.

Gettin Phished

It happens sometimes, usually its some dim witted bacon and donuts type that thinks I'm going to express in a private IM conversation that i will do XXX sex act for XXX dollar amount. I wont on the phone, or email and they want to do an end run around, thinking that i'll some how incriminate myself in an IM. Good luck on that one. The men in blue have a specific way about them and I'm always extra cautious anyways, i find them out pretty fast. Plus they could never pass screening and i ALWAYS screen.

The other day i got phished and i first thought i was a a man in a uniform, but then it took a turn that made me believe it was someone just fucking with me, looking for personal information about yours truly. This person who was "new to the hobby"knew too much, for someone "new" they ask pointed questions under the guise of being a fumbling newbie. Like i would somehow give them some kernel of personal info i don't give out to potential clients. That i would slip up and give them the little golden nugget they were looking for... AS IF.

My favorite portion of this fleeting online conversation was when he told me how nice i seemed in an effort to butter me up when i was being a reserved, suspicious, non responsive, bitch. yeah dead give away...

oh well seems my "fan club" is still out there with too much time on their hands, i hope they enjoyed my bad spelling and bitchy attitude!

Today page 32, tomorrow ... the world!

So it came out today, i had no advance copy and i wasn't sure how much i would be quoted. I found out because i got an email from The Ethical Slut (I just love her) telling me i was on page 32. I Jenny DeMilo have been quoted for the first time in a national publication. It's the first step in my goal of conquering the media and sharing my expertise on the hooker and john... errr provider and hobbyist subculture i have found myself involved in for the last several years.

They used some good quotes from me and gave me the prestigious first spot...Upper left baby! I'd also like to say that i am the priciest girl in the mix and i also used the word "Pussy" in my first nationally published quote. Oh hell yeah why not start it off right and with a bang!

This is just the first thing I've been working on to come to fruition, I have many things in the cooker ready to burst out! I'll keep you all posted as they trickle down the proverbial pike. This one hit the newsstands today April 25 2008.

Today page 32 in Radar Magizine... Tomorrow the world!

Availble for comment!

Sometimes its not easy being your own press agent, okay its never easy but it's usually fun. So today i finish off my first press release. I'm in the process of putting together my mailing list; email, snail and fax. It's an exciting time for me, i hope that my 100th press release will be as much fun putting together as this first one has been.

With the article i worked on for a major magazine (a well kept secret until it hits the news stands in a week or so) This is the perfect time to be "available for comment" well that and the whole sex for sale scandal all over the news (thanks NY Governor Spitzer for your love of whores!) the media is primed and ready to go. I'm taking the financial analyst approach to being available for comment... so maybe it will work and maybe it wont. ahhh who am i kidding of course it will work. Advertising and marketing was what i really excelled in before Blow Jobs and i did that almost as well ;)

I heard some people are quaking in their chicken shit boots at the thought of Jenny DeMilo as a go to girl for the media in regards to escort world. Maybe those same people should have thought better of calling me a cunt over and over and passing around my private info. It's not my problem if they are all scared now that my platform is on the verge of being much broader and they didn't have the forethought to not be the worst kinda escort world sludge. Oh well sucks to be them. People who have bothered to take the time to speak to me or who know me aren't in the least bit scared. Why should they be... they have no reason to be.

I'm not afraid of anything.. My names Jenny DeMilo, I'm fearless and... I'm available for comment!

Big things on the horizon!

I cant give it away just yet, but there is something a brewin' in Jenny land guaranteed to knock your socks off. Okay maybe it will knock my panties off and not your socks... well it will knock something off, i assure you.

sorry to be so cryptic but I'm not allowed to spill the major media beans just yet.. soon my pretties... soon!

Break it on down

I get asked a lot “who sees escorts”? Most people think its what they see on TV streetwalkers like on HBO’s hookers on the point who see convicts who just need to bust a nut after being locked up for 7 to10. I guess thats one element but i've never experienced it.

In my experience it really breaks down like this …

90% are married or involved men. They are missing something in their relationships (intimacy, sex, variety maybe all of it) and they rationalize to themselves that it’s not “cheating” because they are paying for it.

The guy who’s crossing it off their list of things to do, like skydiving. If it were legal he’d go once in a while. He’s usually single and in a dating dry spell. The casual user ;)

The guys who would never get laid without it. Nice guys, NO game. They are uncomfortable around women; they don’t look you in the eye. They will never be the guys who pick up the tasty piece of ass at the bar. So he rents her by the hour.

Then there’s the ones that I do my best to screen out. They always need to tell you how attractive they are. They make a point of letting you know that they don’t “have” to pay for it and usually they're right. They are good-looking guys with lots of game and plenty of charm. They could go out and pick up hot girls every night of the week. They talk the talk and walk the walk. They call an escort because they are lazy. As a result they are resentful they have a “service me” attitude they are lazy lovers and treat you like a whore. yuck.

They are your brothers, your husbands, your fathers, and your sons. They are rich, poor and everything in between. They are of every color of the human rainbow All kinds of men hire escorts.

If they didn’t... i'd be out of a job!