The Girlfriend Experience?

GFE aka the girlfriend experience its much sought after. For the time contracted you try to connect with your client, be intimate, present and involved in your time together. That the job, that's what i do and i do it well. Sure i can deep throat a cock, fuck you silly and scream like a banshee but that's the easy part, finding the connection with someone in such a short space of time is a skill and one you need, to do what i do.

What i have found is that many potential clients not only expect that kind of experience within the context of the time he has purchased with you, but they now want it outside of it as well. What they want is essentially a defacto relationship of sorts. Not just a few back and forth get to know you emails which I'm always up for, i tend to be sweet but not to personal in those communication because that's how i am. I'm sweet but I'm not to personal with people i don't know well. If you want to get personal then book the time and i will be very personal then..and naked!

I had a client cancel on me recently it turned ugly and fast. Expenses were incurred on my part and the client graciously offered to reimburse me for those, then suddenly balked. It was uncomfortable and he was insulting. He sent me long winded multi paged chastising emails where he worked himself up into a massive froth of total wakadoo-ness. The last paragraph of the last email he sent me he actually had the stones to chide me on how i wasn't sympathetic to his personal financial situation. A situation that was responsible for his need to cancel our confirmed plans or rather it was his relatives personal financial situation, that's what i didn't care enough about. Yep that's right, i didn't care enough or at all about his siblings finances.

Now had this person been a friend of mine, someone i had a personal relationship with or even regular client who i had spent intimate time with i would have had sympathy for him and or his family. But i didn't because he wasn't a friend of mine he was a potential client, someone i had exchanged a few plesentries with off and on for a while until he finally decided to book time with me. He wasn't a friend, we had never broken bread, gone out for a drink or a movie, until a few days before he canceled leaving me with a hotel bill i prepaid i didn't even know his real name, i only know him by a message board handle and he was littlerly enraged that i didn't care about his siblings financial plight. yep that's a whole lotta crazy right there.

I know times are tough for a lot of people, I'm not immune to that, people i care about have been out of work for months, family members have lost retirements, every one i know is tightening their belt these days myself included. I watch the news, i know about the rising unemployment rates, I'm well aware of my Local economy taking a nose dive and how the housing bubble in my area busted over a year ago. I'm not unsympathetic to the general plight.. but... I'm NOT your fucking girlfriend. I offer a service, the girlfriend EXPERIENCE and of you want me to act like your girlfriend you need to PAY me to do it, i don't give that up for free unless i really am your girlfriend and for a potential client and long time hobbyist to throw a temper tantrum because I'm not giving him "free service" well ... whacka-doo is the word i have to repeat.

Within the context of my paid time with you if you want to lament to me about your siblings hardships i will be the most sympathetic person i know how to be, i will empathize with their difficult times if that's how you want to spend your time but until that time, i don't owe you shit.

I'm not your bitch...bitch

Gettin Phished

It happens sometimes, usually its some dim witted bacon and donuts type that thinks I'm going to express in a private IM conversation that i will do XXX sex act for XXX dollar amount. I wont on the phone, or email and they want to do an end run around, thinking that i'll some how incriminate myself in an IM. Good luck on that one. The men in blue have a specific way about them and I'm always extra cautious anyways, i find them out pretty fast. Plus they could never pass screening and i ALWAYS screen.

The other day i got phished and i first thought i was a a man in a uniform, but then it took a turn that made me believe it was someone just fucking with me, looking for personal information about yours truly. This person who was "new to the hobby"knew too much, for someone "new" they ask pointed questions under the guise of being a fumbling newbie. Like i would somehow give them some kernel of personal info i don't give out to potential clients. That i would slip up and give them the little golden nugget they were looking for... AS IF.

My favorite portion of this fleeting online conversation was when he told me how nice i seemed in an effort to butter me up when i was being a reserved, suspicious, non responsive, bitch. yeah dead give away...

oh well seems my "fan club" is still out there with too much time on their hands, i hope they enjoyed my bad spelling and bitchy attitude!

My blog is a dictatorship not a democracy

I welcome comments disagreeing with my point of view or taking exception to my thoughts, ideas, whatever. However if you trolls think i will approve comments where you call me a cunt or any other debasing name you can forget it. MAYBE i would have approved your little"anonymous" tirade if you had bothered to string a cohesive thought together and still called me names.... nawww, no i wouldn't have.

So you tweaked out, never was, waste of silicone, why don't you come back when you're not smoking crack and try to put together comment stating your opposing views that doesn't include flaming the blog owner (don't be such a dumb bitch) and MAYBE I'll approved your chicken shit, scared to post under your name, skeezed out, old hag, bony ass.

...maybe

Enough about me, what do you think about me?

Mini reviews being hijacked i see it more and more...

A mini review is a short blurb a "hobbyist" ie client writes about a "providers" ie escort. It's usually because a formal review takes a while and the dude wants to get the word out. She was great or she sucked. Almost all mini reviews are positive in nature.

What I've been observing lately is escorts who are not the escort being reviewed jumping on the mini review thread in a very thinly veiled attempt to steal the girls who are being written about thunder. To bring all the attention to herself. In many cases they don't even give the subject of the mini review time to thank her client for the acknowledgment. I find this kind of behavior classless and opportunistic. Are times that tough that you have to try to step on someone elses praise in hopes that you can get everyone to "look at me, look at me, look at me"? or is it a narcissistic need to always be the center of attention and not letting another girl have her moment and shine.... On her own goddamed mini review.

It reeks of desperation to me, peppered with little nuggets of a personality disorder to act in such a way over and over. Sure we all want attention, and in this biz attention can often equal money. However there is enough room for all of us to eat. Let someone else have their moment in the sun, especially on their own review. They were the one in the room making the client feel special not some opportunistic, insecure escort who must have all eyes on her no matter the situation.

Some girls just don't get it and will never be comfortable letting another female bask in the glow of her own accomplishments and sadly they just never will.

Strange hobby observations #1

all kinds of people are attracted to the hobby. But the strangest phenomenon to me is people who DONT hobby but participate on message boards and are often angry little men who fling around the word cunt, bitch whore. Now while some of these guys are usually kids in there moms basement many and one type ive encountered on a local board is the kind with issues with women. I don't just mean trouble dealing with women i mean deep rooted issues with women. things that can relate back to their relationship with mommie.

let me tell you about NonHobbyist A, Lets call him Erik45. Erik45's mother died a few years back and left him what he says is a good inheritance. He never really loved his mother she was a dominating bitch. She never let him be a man, always made his decisions for him. As a result hes an emotional child. Very shortly after his mothers passing Erik45 find a hobbyist message board and begins to brag to all the "whores" how much money he has and how now that his mother is dead he can spend all his money sleeping with hookers. Only the providers remind him of his dead mother so much (they dont love him either they just want his money) that he doesn't actually make appointments to see the girls in real life. He does spend his days harassing them on a message board. Day in and day out he sits int he dark of the home he used to share with his mother but he is now alone and posts vile things telling these whores whats wrong with them.

You see it on every message board to varying degrees. I really feel sorry for these guys because i think deep down they are just looking to be loved but are incapable of giving love and therefore not capable of receiving it. Looking for "love" by women who sell sex for a living just isnt going to happen. So instead they last out of all of women kind and as women in the sex business know Prostitutes are always an easy target.

people target them... and this latest incarnation is just one of my strange hobby observations. Of course Erik45 isnt real he's a mish mass of different board personalities but the gist is all the same. they are scary men who dont like women and you always have to look out for them, you never know when one will pop up and you are their latest target.

this can be a dangerous business you always have to be aware of your surroundings even when those surroundings are on the Internet.

Do The Math!

I have been outed. As you may have guessed Jenny DeMilo is not my real name. My personal information and un-blurry pictures were circulating among the Hobby crowd in LA. Links to an old social networking site of mine (pre escort days) was posted on a local review board. My identity on display for the world. Lucky me right.

This is my secret life, having my dazzling smile and my real contact information available to the masses does not make me a happy camper. As you may know I'm a little outspoken so I'd really like to keep my real life, the real me, separate from Miss Jenny DeMilo.

so i begin to try to make sense of this situation. First the local board was kind enough to remove the information. Okay step one done. Now how do i trace back to who would do such a dastardly thing and "out" me.

Step two: who had the information to pass out?

3 people had my information. 2 friends and one escort/porn actor who needed a release for photos i had shot of her. (damn legal documents they always want your real name)

My friends are my friends but doing my due diligence i asked them anyways. I felt like an ass having to ask people i knew cared about me such a thing but i did anyways. They said no. One was pretty hurt i would think they would do such a thing to me. i felt like a schmuck. Process of elimination leads me to the 3rd person who had my info. The escort porn actor who needed the legal release.

She's been kinda a pain in my ass for a while, getting upset when i photograph or associate with models she doesn't like or feels threatened by (and her list was growing seems she has issues with most people who own vaginas). I had spent the better part of last year distancing myself from her because i didn't care for her bad attitude and her message board antics where she would attack other women at the drop of a hat. She always had something nasty to say about another girl. Usually a skinny, pretty girl but she didn't limit her female hating to just the girls better looking then her, she was becoming a very equal opportunity hater. I didn't need to be associated with that kind of bad energy. So i backed off having any kind of dealings with her.

Again doing my due diligence i tried to email her asking her if she had outed me, my email was returned, i was blocked from sending her email. I tried to IM her i was blocked from her messenger. ummm curious.

so i went to some of the people who had been passed my information and appealed to their better sense of self to tell me who had betrayed me and been giving out my personal info. I was persistent in asking them to do the right thing. It took some time but low and behold they cracked and gave it up! It was as i had suspected the escort/porn actor who had my info on the legal release had been the culprit. It was pretty logical to come to that conclusion but now in addition to logic someone had given her up. It's not brain surgery, its pretty simple.. do the math. 3 people have the info. 2 are my friends, 1 is some crazy psycho who has a bone to pick with me and has blocked me from asking her anything about it. ummmmmmmm....

Step three: do the math
1+1=2

so now what.... whats the epilogue to the story? There's nothing that can be done about it. My info is out there. I was told by some people in the escort life much longer then i, that if i have gone this long without being outed than I've done better then most. So there's that. There's also the fact that i was raised a Buddhist and that because of that i do have a very strong belief in karma and what goes around will definitely come around. That people who are such incredible and flagrant assholes will have all the bad energy come back to them. I can only imagine who else this psycho has tried to hurt. If she would go to such lengths to try to hurt me because of something so trivial as me not refusing shoots for people she didn't like, then i can only imagine what she would do to someone who really get under her skin. She must have many perceived enemies and spend so much of her time wallowing in her negative energy. It's really kind of pathetic.

I guess the world has a lot of fucked up people in it.

Hate, its the new black.

Abusive on a message board does that equal abusive in person? I think it does. I'm not talking about a one time outburst, I'm talking about a pattern of abusive behavior. When someones underlying theme is hurtful on purpose to others. I wonder if these men even realise that they are getting screened out by girls for their online "persona", if the reason they are getting so many "sorry I'm unavailable" is because it all relates back to they are a total and complete misogynistic hate filled dick when they post on a message board.

Many escorts watch the boards and look for a pattern. Is he nice to others, does he have an underlying anger problem. Is he always calling girls who are not his taste names. Is he a boundary crosser and often advocate an angry approach, does he throw a temper tantrum if someone disagrees with him. Someone like that will get abusive in person, they will try to cross your boundaries, they will throw a temper tantrum in person and you better hope that if they do you are savvy enough to placate them and guide the situation so you don't get hurt.

This can be a very dangerous business and there are very angry men who have very serious issues with women in general who gravitate to it. They cant relate to women in an intimate fashion int he real world and they want to be in control so they BUY it and then they feel since they've bought it, they can treat it anyways they want. Yup i said "IT" that's because that's how they act. Not as if the escort is a living breathing person with family and friends and people who love her. But as a thing they can treat anyways they want. I see that behavior all over message boards. I see people saying very reveling things about how they feel about women. If you watch for the pattern it will always emerge.

You have to be alert and aware at all times. The risk is never worth it. If i see someone who is mean and hurtful to others on a message board, i will always be "unavailable" to them, even if they are sacranie sweet to me. How they treat everyone matters not just how they treat me. The risk that they could snap and treat me how I've seen them threat others is always there and its never worth the risk for a few bucks.... never.

Luckily there are also great guys who really do love women on these boards and are not seeing escorts as a way to resolve their personal demons with women. Those guys I'm always happy to see and usually have a great time with. I wish i saw more of that positive presence on the boards and less of the angry, i hate the world and especially women guy, who cant help but reveal himself and spew his hatred out of his angry little fingers.

Hate its the new black.

The sweeter the juice!

I love black men. I love big black cock. I love the way my milky white skin looks against their dark chocolate skin. It's hot.

I see black clients; I have no issues even though of the three times I was assaulted or robbed on the job two of them were by a black man. Even though every time I am approached and hollered at by a pimp, he’s a black man. I also see white guys, Asian guys and Hispanic guys… if you can pass my screening and meet my price and you don’t creep me out. We have a good time ahead of us.

Which brings me the point of this entry.

I don’t have to service every dick with a dollar. I’ve been observing an online lynch mob. A group of angry black men who are hammering girls who politely say “sorry I don’t see black gentlemen” there was a huge movement a while ago for girls to put their preference on their sites or on they web profiles as to not waste anyone’s time by turning someone away at the door. Several of them complied and got caught in the big trap.

Now they are labeled racists and being taken to the cyber stocks and being stoned by the angry black lynch mob. Many of these girls have tried to get out of the trap by explaining that they have past experiences which prevent them from being intimate with a man of color, some just say they are not attracted to black men and there fore wouldn’t be at their best, some of these women are even black themselves. The lynch mob doesn’t care about anyone’s rational or reason. These girls dig their holes deeper and deeper with every word that comes out of their mouth. The mob jumps on every word syllable or thought. They are a single-minded mob they want their dicks serviced and they don’t care about the girls doing the sucking and fucking.

The lynch mob is after them… they follow them around message boards pushing their agenda. Getting angrier at every post. They are mean, rude, angry, and they happen to be black. They call them whores, bitches, racists, and cunts. They speak with such venom that I’m sure they have turned even more women off to entertaining black clients.

I do understand where the anger comes from; it can’t be easy to be judged by the color of your skin. I know it’s not easy for me when I get judged because I own a pussy not a cock or because im a escort for a living. The irony that these men are so angry for being judged but in the same breathe they do to someone else exactly what they are so mad about being done to them. Whores are treated by them, as lesser beings and receptacles.

Their argument…. You’re a whore, you fuck for money, and you’re McDonalds you HAVE to serve anyone that puts the money of the table, just like McDonalds. To that I call bullshit

I wouldn’t fuck any of them with Aileen Wuornos pussy and I LOVE black men but I don’t have to service every dick with a dollar and I am not McDonalds.

I get to choose whom I get naked with. If you’re an asshole guess what? I’m not screwing you. If you’re creepy, guess what im not screwing you. If you say anything to put me off guess what im not screwing you. If you speak to me like you never attended a day of school and throw around the term “baby girl” too much, guess what im not screwing you.

My body my choice. I may be in a business but until I can reap the benefits of any other legit business, yanno like not going to jail for doing my job then I don’t have to abide by the state discrimination laws. Oh and to that I also say even McDonalds reserves the right to refuse service to anyone.

I feel sorry for these women who fell into the trap of trying to be upfront. Now they are persecuted. Do I feel sorry for the members of the black lynch mob for not being able to screw a few whores, nope I don’t because I'm thinking they got turned down not because of the color of their skin but because of their piss poor attitudes. That piss poor attitude shows though in everything they say and do.

They are not being discriminated for being black they are being discriminated against for being douche bags.

The only valid censorship of ideas is the right of people not to listen.

I was checking my web stats and I noticed my blog was being linked to the small local message board I recently wrote about taking a break from. To my surprise (not really) a few of the stupider troglodytes were all up in arms about my blog entry where I was talking about how even though I wasn’t participating on that board, they just couldn’t stop talking about me

To prove how wrong I was, they linked my blog and talked, talked, talked, talked about me. Once again I am the main topic of their conversation.

Another whole thread dedicated to yours truly. This time they are stomping their little feet and holding their breath swearing up and down they don’t care one little bit about me or anything I have to say by posting about me over and over and over…. Oh the irony!

It did get me thinking though about one of my favorite things. The first amendment of the constitution

“Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the government for a redress of grievances.”

The most basic component of freedom of expression is the right of freedom of speech. The right to freedom of speech allows individuals to express themselves without interference or constraint by the government. Freedom of the press guaranteed by the first amendment is not very different from the right to freedom of speech. It allows an individual to express themselves through publication and dissemination. It is part of the constitutional protection of freedom of expression.

I don’t know if I would call my blog “the press” but it sure falls under the heading of ‘expressing myself though dissemination” and I really don’t care who doesn’t like the fact that I not only have the right to express myself but that I take the initiative and I actually do express myself and I will continue to whenever I feel like it. I am a patriot and those rights apply to me as well as those same troglodytes (and one nasty troglodyte-ette) only they choose to express themselves by grunting and scratching their crotches instead of by forming an original thought and putting pen to paper.

Yes it’s true, the first amendment is my favorite amendment to the constitution…. though I do have a little crush on the 4th.

Big kiss,
Jenny

In the future everyone will be world-famous for fifteen minutes

I used to be very involved in a small local provider and hobbyist message board in L.A. I recently decided to take a break. Not only because I have knowledge that it’s being watched closely by law enforcement but because its slant has became increasing anti female. I mean who needs to participate on a message board where at every turn you have to defend who you are and what you chose to do to a bunch of small minded woman hating troglodytes. It used to be a nice community of like-minded folks but without moderation and a lack of control and interest by the site owners it has degenerated into a microcosm of misogynistic slime and ooze. Who needs that? I know I don’t. I walked away.

It wasn’t worth the effort any longer, so once day I just stopped posting. I stopped pointing out the obvious, adding my humor, perspective and thoughts to a hooker message board i had been involved with for years.

It took about a week before people noticed I wasn’t contributing. Threads where started about my absence about two weeks into my departure. Little You Tube videos (amateurishly made) were created to discuss “where was Jenny” I was more the talk of the cyber town when I wasn’t there, then when I was there helping new people get acclimated, pointing new providers in the direction of safety information, posting my availability and sharing my unique point of view on being a online message board hooker.

I would occasionally read this local board and when I got an email from friends alerting me to yet another topic about ….me, Jenny. I would read and laugh. They didn’t have anything to talk about without me. They had theories as to what I was doing, where did I go, what happened to me. I wouldn’t have been surprised of there was a betting pool all about me.

Just this morning I was once again alerted to another topic about, you guessed it, ME. Too funny, it’s like im their god, their ruler they have nothing to talk about if im not there good, bad or indifferent… they are speechless, directionless and lost with out me. How sad is that.

Its like im Elvis, im legendary. Soon there will be Jenny sightings all over Kalamazoo Michigan. Apparently I made quite the impression that even after weeks and weeks if removing myself from participation that the main topic if conversation on this small local message board about sex for money is still… JENNY DEMILO.

The funny thing is that I have a pretty high profile. I am a regular participant on a national and well-known review board. I have this blog, which I just took mainstream, and my other blog that is directed at an escort audience. I have ads on national escort mall sights and I participate on other small local boards in other cities. I just stopped posting on THAT board. The one where they have contempt for women, where every other thread’s theme is ”bad whores, bad, bad whores” I really thought no once would notice my absence, I didn’t think I had that big of an influence on the people of that local board. I couldn’t have been more wrong. By removing myself and deciding to not participate I have elevated myself to a much higher status in those small minds and become quite the legend. More talked about, more thought about and more posted about then when I was active and involved… I really am a legendary on this nothing little board… and not only in my own mind!

Time to go buy a bedazzled jumpsuit!