Friday, February 13, 2009

The Girlfriend Experience?

GFE aka the girlfriend experience its much sought after. For the time contracted you try to connect with your client, be intimate, present and involved in your time together. That the job, that's what i do and i do it well. Sure i can deep throat a cock, fuck you silly and scream like a banshee but that's the easy part, finding the connection with someone in such a short space of time is a skill and one you need, to do what i do.

What i have found is that many potential clients not only expect that kind of experience within the context of the time he has purchased with you, but they now want it outside of it as well. What they want is essentially a defacto relationship of sorts. Not just a few back and forth get to know you emails which I'm always up for, i tend to be sweet but not to personal in those communication because that's how i am. I'm sweet but I'm not to personal with people i don't know well. If you want to get personal then book the time and i will be very personal then..and naked!

I had a client cancel on me recently it turned ugly and fast. Expenses were incurred on my part and the client graciously offered to reimburse me for those, then suddenly balked. It was uncomfortable and he was insulting. He sent me long winded multi paged chastising emails where he worked himself up into a massive froth of total wakadoo-ness. The last paragraph of the last email he sent me he actually had the stones to chide me on how i wasn't sympathetic to his personal financial situation. A situation that was responsible for his need to cancel our confirmed plans or rather it was his relatives personal financial situation, that's what i didn't care enough about. Yep that's right, i didn't care enough or at all about his siblings finances.

Now had this person been a friend of mine, someone i had a personal relationship with or even regular client who i had spent intimate time with i would have had sympathy for him and or his family. But i didn't because he wasn't a friend of mine he was a potential client, someone i had exchanged a few plesentries with off and on for a while until he finally decided to book time with me. He wasn't a friend, we had never broken bread, gone out for a drink or a movie, until a few days before he canceled leaving me with a hotel bill i prepaid i didn't even know his real name, i only know him by a message board handle and he was littlerly enraged that i didn't care about his siblings financial plight. yep that's a whole lotta crazy right there.

I know times are tough for a lot of people, I'm not immune to that, people i care about have been out of work for months, family members have lost retirements, every one i know is tightening their belt these days myself included. I watch the news, i know about the rising unemployment rates, I'm well aware of my Local economy taking a nose dive and how the housing bubble in my area busted over a year ago. I'm not unsympathetic to the general plight.. but... I'm NOT your fucking girlfriend. I offer a service, the girlfriend EXPERIENCE and of you want me to act like your girlfriend you need to PAY me to do it, i don't give that up for free unless i really am your girlfriend and for a potential client and long time hobbyist to throw a temper tantrum because I'm not giving him "free service" well ... whacka-doo is the word i have to repeat.

Within the context of my paid time with you if you want to lament to me about your siblings hardships i will be the most sympathetic person i know how to be, i will empathize with their difficult times if that's how you want to spend your time but until that time, i don't owe you shit.

I'm not your bitch...bitch

10 comments:

Alexa said...

Ahaha! Wow, the nerve. The bad thing about a hobby, any hobby, is that sometimes it can overtake your common sense and interfere with your ability to understand anything outside that hobby. That goes for this hobby as well, apparently. lol

Jordan said...

Hey great theory on GFE! I have a question that I bet many guys out there would love answered. How do you tell what ads to trust? I think you know what I mean. So many review sites out there but whats to believe?

Thought you may be able to shed some light!

BTW I just had 2 cupcakes!

Jordan

dviantboy said...

@Jenny - wow that sucks. Whacka-doo. Love it.

@Jordan... Experience and the collection of as much information as possible in the form of reviews and, if possible, personal referrals. For me, that includes message board posts, writing style, some display of intelligence and humor. At least, that's what I look at. My mistakes have come when I ignored all that and let the little head do the thinking.

I pity the newbie just venturing into these waters on either side of the transaction. It's complex and a lot to learn thanks to expectations that have built up along with the GFE cliche, which I think is a misnomer. Maybe BCE - booty call experience - would be better. Or NLE - new lover experience. By the time someone has the 'girlfriend' tag in real life, things have generally settled down from the new lover stage.

Buck Turgidson said...

Jenny, you have my heartfelt sympathy! I "hobby" and I will never get the guys (who seem to be the majority) who want to pay a woman to act like their girlfriend. The last thing I want is a facsimile of an emotional "connection." I bet these are the same guys who drone on about how it's more important for them to please their "date" than to receive pleasure. *GAG*

Jenny wrote: "Sure i can deep throat a cock, fuck you silly and scream like a banshee but that's the easy part." That's ALL I would ever want. I want to feel like I'm a porn star, not the dude on the cover of a romance novel.

Rebecca said...

What nerve. Especially now, it becomes tempting to invest a little to make more money, but there's too many dickheads out there, especially now, expecting something for nothing.

It's the new "Wimpy" character from Popeye. ""I will gladly pay you Tuesday for a #$^%^ today"

Ronald10021 said...

Great post, and great points.
Other than one escort who has a great blog like yours, I don't actively correspond with women that I haven't had regular appointments with. She is different because she has a blog and invites correspondence, but the correspondence is related to the blog and not an attempt to get free phone/e-mail sex or waste her time. Good for you for standing up for yourself.

Anonymous said...

Yup, thats about right lately.
More more more, for less less less.

And it seems to be the chest beaters who are all over the boards- that expect us to become their girlfriends.

VaMatureGFE said...

My understanding ends where your costing me money begins. ;)

Some guys jut don't get that at the end of the day, they are paying for a service and all the amenities that come with said service.

Wackadoo indeed.

Frederique said...

Hi Jenny...avid reader...first time poster.

Perhaps Sir Whack A Doo would be better of perusing dating sites like match dot com or it's equivalent.

Geesh...talk about balls...

blog.p4phobby.co.cc said...

100% completely agree with you. If the hobbyiest wants the GFE outside the the P4P realm, than they should just get a Real Girlfriend. No money No honey.